Life knocks us down. What helps us get back up?
It’s not about how smart we are, or who we know, or what school we went to. It’s about resilience. Our emotional IQs may be just as important, if not more important, than our actual IQs.
Our emotional intelligence is subtle:
Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results. Emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that pair up under two primary competencies: personal competence and social competence.
And, as luck would have it, our emotional intelligence is something we can work to improve:
Unlike your IQ, your EQ is highly malleable. As you train your brain by repeatedly practicing new emotionally intelligent behaviors, your brain builds the pathways needed to make them into habits. Before long, you will begin responding to your surroundings with emotional intelligence without even having to think about it. And as your brain reinforces the use of new behaviors, the connections supporting old, destructive behaviors will die off.
Consider these nine habits of emotionally intelligent people:
1. They’re relentlessly positive.
2. They have a robust emotional vocabulary.
3. They’re assertive.
4. They’re curious about other people.
5. They forgive, but they don’t forget.
6. They won’t let anyone limit their joy.
7. They make things fun.
8. They are difficult to offend.
9. They quash negative self-talk.
Focus on the things you can control. Don’t get lost in the negativity of things beyond your sphere of influence. Remember to stay positive and joyful.
And then get yourself back up!