Encourage

Splurge a little.

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Wouldn’t it be great if there were a pause button for life? Just a little breather from the salacious headlines or the demands of the day. It is so easy to get wound up. For many of us, it takes conscious effort to unwind. And, even when you desperately need it, when can you pencil in unwind time in an already hectic day?

Today, give yourself permission for a little time to yourself, a time to reflect and renew, a time away from the hustle and bustle. A time, perhaps, for a bit of chocolate.

Savor it.

Read.

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Read a good book lately? In this day and age of sound bites and click-baiting, alternative facts and sketchy news sources, how many of us take the time to read? Really read–sink ourselves into a novel and lose ourselves in another world, look through a different person’s eyes, experience through the pages a life and world different from our own? Studies show that reading increases our empathy. It makes us more tolerant, open, and loving people. It expands our horizons. For a great list of suggestions, go here.

Peace to you, my friend.

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We tend to think of peace as the absence of violence as quiet is the absence of noise, but is it more? Perhaps peace is active. It exists in the kind word offered, the refusal to meet hate with hate, the comfort of following higher principles, the strength of the outstretched hand. It is so easy to lose, to slip into mirroring the hate and violence we see around us, to sit silent in front of a bully, to trade barbs, to slide down. Peace is active. We maintain it in our hearts and mind. We breathe deeply to draw us back to that peaceful place. We remember truth, honor, decency, compassion. We breathe in the world; we breathe out heaven.

Look for the good.

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Pessimists and optimists are both right. Technically. The glass is half full and also half empty. But the optimistic way of looking at the world, of looking for the blessings in each situation, can be much better for your health and spirit. Cultivating gratitude for each day, each experience, each person you know will give you new eyes and help you appreciate the life you are actually living.

Consider the adverb…

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It doesn’t really matter what your New Year’s resolution is, it’s all about the how, not the what. Adverbs are important when it comes down to it.

If your resolution is to lose a few pounds, does it make a difference whether you lose it sensibly or too fast or maybe, even, because you’re ill?

If your resolution is to make more money, does it make a difference if it is done at someone else’s expense or illegally?

No matter what we pick as the what of the resolution, the focus really must be on the how as well. Consider the adverb. The how of things makes a difference.

Generously or greedily. Selfishly or selflessly. Safely or recklessly. Kindly or maliciously. Honestly or dishonestly.

For every action that you can resolve to do, there is a spectrum of hows to reach that goal. Maybe, even, there is a line that can be crossed on that spectrum where the what isn’t important anymore because it involves a how that will make us someone who we don’t want to be.

So, when you’re going about planning your new year, consider what adverbs you want to be a part of it.